You may not realize it, but we have contracts with each other. These are Sacred and Holy Contract with people in our lives. We have parents, teachers, friends and yes “noble friends.”
Our “noble” friends have agreed to help us learn an important lesson that we chose to learn together. These “noble” friends you might not consider them friends at all.
In the last post, I talked about life being a mirror reflecting back to you what is inside you. Always look within for your answer. See where you need to be softened and polished. You can thank the “noble” friend for assisting you in accessing and claiming your lesson.
Some of these lessons can be pretty rough. As these contracts are playing out, both you and your noble friend are invited to make the highest choice you can. Choose love over fear. Choose to not perpetuate the behavior.
Another thought. We never have the whole story. We have bits and pieces and then we make up a story around the experience. It is usually a “who dun’ it.” There is a “he said/she said” piece. There is the belief that someone is right and the other is wrong. The “right” or “wrong” person depends on who is telling the story. We can’t see from the other person’s perspective.
Just remember that even though you are in therapy because of somebody, there is somebody in therapy because of your behavior. Consider being generous with forgiveness.
We have agreements and contracts with people in our life. They are here for our learning and supporting each other. Get to the impersonal level to see what the pattern is that is playing out. Thank your noble friend and do your best to drop the story and heal yourself. A life of joy awaits you.
If you want to read more there is a great book: Sacred Contracts, Carolyn Myss