It is very hard to escape the lower emotions. There is so much pull to stay there. It is addicting and alluring, and it may be all we know. People will choose an abusive familiar to an unknown possible every time. Look as girls (or guys) that hook up with an abusive partner time and time again. They know abuse. They don’t know what real love is and therefore won’t choose it unless they fall into it. Then they well may screw it up.
How do you get out of the far country? Try gratitude. Gratitude is a wonderful feeling for all. It is a very high emotion. It is light and airy. It is spacious.
First you have to make a gratitude list. There are so many things for which to be grateful. Be grateful for the next breath. How about the chair you are sitting upon? How about being grateful for the computer and server from where you are reading this post.
Spend several days creating a gratitude list. If you are just starting, I would write out a gratitude list every day and see if you can expand it. Look for things to be grateful. It could be a spring day or a flower or bird. What is in your life that makes you thankful?
Next I want you to feel gratitude. Feeling is different than just saying thank you. When you can see a sunset and know who the thank, where do you feel that in your body. I want you to go to your body for this. Most likely you will feel your heart open. That “open heart” feeling is what I want you to remember and expand upon.
Time to do a gratitude meditation. Sit in a comfortable position. I don’t care if it is on a chair or the floor. Don’t lie down, you might fall asleep. The breathing pattern I want you to use is a comfortably deep inhale and exhale. No space in between the breath. Just keep a nice comfortable deep inhale and exhale, inhale and exhale. Do not do this so fast that you get dizzy. If you do, just slow down. This breathing pattern comes from HeartMath and will bring you into coherence. You are probably not used to being in coherence.
While you are doing this breathing pattern, start to think about things for which you are thankful. Feel the gratitude and you do the breathing. It is important to FEEL gratitude. Do this for about 5 minutes to start. Build up to a 20 minute practice.
Just some pointers. You may find your mind wandering as it will. Just bring it back to the practice. Also you might think that this is too much gratitude and it is a little weird. We have a lot of negative images and messages to overcome. You need a gratitude rampage going on to counter the negative stuff. So work yourself up to a frenzy in thankfulness because you have already done that with negativity. I know, been there, done that! 🙂
This is the fastest why I know of to get into Love. It takes practice. You will want to slip into gratitude during the day. Enjoy!