It is very hard to escape the lower emotions. There is so much pull to stay there. It is addicting and alluring, and it may be all we know. People will choose an abusive familiar to an unknown possible every time. Look as girls (or guys) that hook up with an abusive partner time and time again. They know abuse. They don’t know what real love is and therefore won’t choose it unless they fall into it. Then they well may screw it up.